Listen. Here’s the hardest part—Sarah did everything right. How can you know the difference? In their words, “burn-out, Are you tired or is it burnout you’re experiencing? What to say. She loves Jesus. But since I’m an OMT (old married type), sometimes I get the impression that she’s not sure I know what I’m talking about. For one thing, we’re not trained counselors. They were back in Friendville. Be sure to tell your friend that you are willing to listen She serves on the ministry team of Revive Our Hearts. Be a good listener and let your friend talk for as long as they want. He just stopped texting. 4 things to say to a friend going through a breakup, 20 creative ways to comfort a friend going through a breakup, 6 things that might actually comfort a friend, The Journey Inward Continues: Where I’ve Been. Erin Davis is an author, blogger, and speaker who loves to see women of all ages run to the deep well of God’s Word. For the ladies: What do you call your female friend or best friend? Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. Thousands – millions – of other people have felt these things too. Everyone finds comfort in different ways, and ultimately the way to comfort your friend will depend on your friend. Say something like: This is so painful—I’m so sorry this happened. 13. You see there’s this guy. In fact, they call each other best friends. We love hearing from you, but feel limited in the ways we can help. © Copyright 2008-2020. They exchanged a few sweet text messages and a long hug or two and then … nothing. The following errors occurred with your submission. And yet, she’s still struggling. Send a beautiful bouquet of flowers to their office (or house) just because—send one with meaning. She’s not allowed to date until her senior year. I will post my advice for those of you who are struggling like Sarah tomorrow. So, while we don’t think there are “right words” to say or “right things” to do, we have rounded up some solid advice that you can try if you’re struggling to be there for someone. Depending on the seriousness of the broken relationship, for the most part I'd say be understanding, and a shoulder to lean on and don't be too harsh. Sarah’s had a major crush on him since eighth grade. Here are a few things my family and friends have said to me this last year—things that have really, really, really helped. People sound different. And to be honest, I didn’t guard my heart as well as Sarah has when I was her age. You don't want to say or do the wrong things. You desire to honor God with your romantic relationships, and still, your heart has been broken by a guy. It’s true that it’s been a very long time since I’ve had a broken heart. My dear friend whose heart is breaking I can only tell you that time heals all wounds and eventually you will feel better about this broken heart and you truly will learn to love again. She feels confused. I believe in you I’ve changed her name for this post because what I am going to share with you is pretty private. Actually, that’s not her real name. Make them feel understood with reassurance and empathy. She agreed. “You don’t have to go through this alone. * Requests or gives personal information such as email address, address, or phone number. You’ve kept a commitment not to date. Sarah’s been calling me a lot lately. Mostly she just feels sad. Because the Bible is a living book, I believe it has some tailor-made wisdom for Sarah’s situation. Your friend will move on in his own time and telling him to snap out of it too soon, won't get him to snap out of it any sooner. Does God Still Reveal Whom We Should Marry? We’re here for you.” They’ve become really close friends who spend a lot of time together. Because her heart is broken, she is fighting with her mom, dreading school, and skipping meals. Sarah’s a sophomore in high school. And if you’re the heartbroken one, these are all great ideas that you can do for yourself, or suggest doing with a friend.